My Why ...
Women are a life force. We bring life into this world. But somehow, we often forget that one of those lives is ours. We spend so much time being everything and everyone to everybody else and forget about breathing life into ourselves. But the truth is that we cannot be anything to anyone until we are everything to ourselves.
I was taught this lesson when I was 20 years old. My dear deceased Aunt Kay pulled me aside as I was getting ready for my college graduation and told me that I needed to love myself more than anyone else. Over the years since then, I have taken that to heart and have adopted my life motto, self-preservation is key.
That clarity of self has served me well. It has allowed me to live authentically and not have to compromise my morals and values to succeed.
But my Aunt Kay was just one woman who has poured into my life. It began with my mother, Sonia and has continued with my sister Lisa and my cousins, friends, sorority sisters, colleagues, coaches, mentors and mentees.
Their strength, love, and critiques have sustained me and pushed me to being the woman I am today. [My bio is below.] I owe it to them to pay it forward.
In my favorite poem, “The Dash,” author Linda Ellis asks “when your eulogy is being read, with your life’s actions to rehash, would you be proud of the things they say about how you lived your dash?” This question is about your legacy. What legacy are you building in your time on earth? How will you have impacted people’s lives?
I think about these questions everyday and in everything I do. I want to be proud of how I lived my life.
I want women to love themselves more than they love anyone else.
I want women to embrace their greatness.
I want to empower women to live life as their authentic badass selves.
I want women to take control of their legacy.